Right after I wrote the first coaching piece I came across this cartoon by Hugh MacLeod at his wonderful website gapingvoid.com. “You can’t read the label of the jar you’re in” tells us you can’t see yourself from the inside. You need an independent opinion from someone looking at you to tell you how others see you. You are not objective about your subjective world.
When Gerry Spence first opened his Trial Lawyers College at his ranch in Wyoming, I went a few times to help out. One exercise he engineered had everyone sitting in a circle and telling the person to their right five things they liked about them and five they hated. It was eye-opening, but not for the faint of heart. Want to know what others think of you? Try it.
If you ever go to a major league baseball stadium you will see the teams taking batting practice. They always have their batting coach studying player’s mechanics even though these are world-class athletes who have been swinging a bat all their lives. The coach is a type of correctional device.
Trial lawyers also need help to make adjustments in their swing.